Personal Sorts

a discourse on dysfunction

“You know the definition of a dysfunctional family, don’t you? It’s any family with more than one member in it.” ― Sarah Pekkanen, The Opposite of Me

“For where two or three come together, there I am your old friend – dysfunction” Modified from Matthew 18:20

Hi my name is Dawn and I am a functioning dysfunctional and I have recently realized  that I am not alone. I spent my youth convinced that I was the only little girl with a violent stepfather, a bipoloar/alcoholic mother, a depressed/emotionally unavailable father and a sociopath for a stepmother.  My family represents the extreme, and rarely do I find others that can relate to my story (which in a sick and twisted way makes me feel special).  Let’s face it, all families adopt a cocktail of maladaptive behaviors in order to survive. However, an unfortunate few will resign to the dizzying drama that they were born into, except for the functioning dysfunctional (FD for short).  FD’s are survivors.  They are the men and women determined to cut the umbilical chord of co-dependence. They pull themselves up and out of the chaos with only a faint dream of something better.  They stand strong while those around them, attempt to discourage their efforts with shame and manipulate their minds with guilt.  FD’s are resilient.  They see obstacles as opportunities to strengthen their resolve.  Instead of running from difficulties and engaging in mind numbing practices, they remain committed to the vision they see perched on the horizon.  Finally, FD’s are resourceful.  They accept their faults and utilize their “baggage” to the best of their ability, despite their deep seeded belief that no matter what they do they will never be worthy of a life that is better than the one they were born into to.

Just like our forefathers declared, on July 4, 1776, their freedom from the shackles of the British Empire, we stand united as functional dysfunctionals and unanimously proclaim our independence!

“When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for functional dysfunctionals to dissolve the unhealthy rituals of abuse which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, their separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s Grace entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to dissolve the relationships that obstruct their efforts to live a healthy, joyful and prosperous life.” 


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